To change your life you have to change your thoughts.
To change your thoughts you have to change your routine.
To change your routine you have to focus.
All the affirmations, chanting, webinars, summits, courses and workshops will NOT change your life if you go and do what you always do afterwards.
Falling back into your normal routine allows your mind to slip into cruise control. You allow yourself to go back where it’s easy and comfortable, and wake up a week later and wonder where the time has gone.
Nothing will work to change your life if you passively allow your subconscious routines to run…. Nothing!
Your body gets used to doing things in a certain way, and continuously runs that cycle. Have you ever been driving from one place to another and don’t remember the drive? Your subconscious patterns allow your mind to skip over the drive, because you always go the same way.
We are all guilty of allowing our bodies to take over. Do you always park in the same place at the local shops? Always start at the same end of the supermarket? Always take the same route to each place you visit?
Even small routines like having breakfast at the same time, cause us to drift off into what we normally think about while we eat. Do you worry over bills at breakfast or think about what you are doing for the rest of the day, while you eat?
The more repetitious our routines, the more your body and mind are in sync with whatever happens at that moment. In other words when you start eating your breakfast your mind automatically starts thinking about bills or the days events to come. Even if you had not been thinking about them before you started.
In order to make changes, you have to actually make changes. I’m sure everyone has heard the saying, ” You can’t do the same thing and expect a different outcome”. Yet everyday like clockwork we have certain rituals and routines that we stick to, mostly absentmindedly. These rituals and routines keep us stuck in the same life, day after day.
But, I hear you say, I do my affirmations, I listen to meditations, I do everything I am supposed to do to change. Well clearly you are not doing everything you can, because each day you do the same old things and get the same old outcomes.
Change is hard, it is a scary prospect to do things differently. It throws us out of our comfort zone, into the unknown. While you may have wonderful ideas, thoughts and goals in the middle of doing a course or workshop, unless you change what you do after, you will always slip back into your cycles.
Now, don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with rituals and routines, if, and it’s a big if, they are steering you into the life that you want to live. The trick is to reprogram your body and mind into doing the rituals and routines that bring happiness, joy, abundance and love.
Most of us do what we need to do, rather than what we want to do. Obligations, whether real or imagined, keep us stuck in a cycle of “I must”. When we should be in cycles of “I can” or “I choose”.
When you wake in the morning, does your self talk consist of,
I have to do the washing today, I have to do the shopping today, or I must go to a certain place today?
Wouldn’t there be less stress and a more relaxed start to the day if your self talk consisted of,
It’s going to be a lovely day, I can do the washing and it will dry quickly, I am going to make a beautiful dinner tonight so I am going to the shops, or I feel like going here today, it will be fun.
Changing the way you speak to yourself at the beginning of the day can make a huge difference in how happy and productive you are. So much nicer to make choices for your day and your life, than to “have” to do things.
Making small, seemingly insignificant, changes in your day to day life will teach your body and your mind a new way of being, and eventually will become a habit. A positive life changing habit, and all because you took the time to focus and make a little non scary change to your routine.